Day 3 of 280
Remember this is from Parenting by Design from youversion.com
Today we are talking about Quick to Listen and Slow to Speak
I can tell you first hand that it is hard to stand there and hear your child say mean ugly cruel things to you and do your best to respond with empathy. As a person with feelings my first instinct is to respond back with sharpness, and aim to hurt. As a parent of special needs girls I am faced with cruel mean ugly comments that are directed towards me (cause they are mad) on a regular basis. I understand after many years that these comments are really how my girls feel about their self and not how they feel about me.
I have to stop and remind myself to respond with but “I love you” or brain dead phases such as ‘thank you for letting me know how you feel” or ‘nice try sorry it didn’t work” “your words cannot hurt me God has his love wrapped me” these types of phases throw children off for they are not what they expected to hear from us. It gives us as parents time to regroup our thoughts and step back from the angry child. These phases if used can actually make us look stronger in the child’s eye than when we respond with angry that makes us look weak and out of control to the child. Now trust me I understand that this takes practice and it not easy all the time, but when we can use it, it really does help…
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
Have you heard God’s voice today, if not he asked me to tell you that he loves you!!