Information on RAD part 1

Are you a birth mother, foster-mother, adoptive mother with a child that seems to be more defiant, noncompliance and just out right mean to you than others? If you are please read on and come back often to see the most updated post here.
In this first post here I would like to introduce you to a disorder that is spoken of but not all professionals agree on if it actually holds water or not. I can tell you from a parent of two girls with “REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER” it holds water and can cause a lot of damage to the child and the family as well. I am not here to scare you, but to help give you information that can be found however, is very time-consuming and will cost you time that could and should be spent in better ways.
First and foremost “PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT” You did not do this or cause this to happen to your child. I will include a list of signs and causes of “REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER” in but here are a few.
1. Long lasting illness: example ear infections that do not go away or keep coming back
2. Having to be in the hospital for long periods of time
3. Neglect at birth and through the first year of life (there are more along with signs that will be posted)
One thing I would like to tell you, that I wish I had known in the start of our journey 5 years ago was to document everything, behaviors from the child, if this is also happening at school have the teacher document daily what and why things happen. You call a doctor document, you see that doctor document it, if at all possible use video and audio whenever you can. Meetings with school document ask to record the meeting, ask the school to evaluate for an IEP, if they cannot you take the child to mental health have them evaluate and take report to school to prove there is a problem. If and when you look for therapy for your child do not place child in therapy alone find a family therapist with experience with RAD or Complex Trauma, for not only the child needs therapy, but the whole family to help the child(ren) and to be able to recovery from issues that have come to surface.
Links:
1. This is a site called Attach Trauma Network, it is a group of parents that have “RAD” children, some children are old, some children are young, this is a very “GOOD” source of support for yourself. As well as a place for help, advice and guidance along your journey. They have a list of attachment therapist for each state with Name, phone number and address, web site if available and email as well http://www.radzebra.org/
2. This site features author Nancy Thomas who is a profound voice in “RAD” http://www.attachment.org/pages_parents_articles25.php (look for her books)
3.In Georgia there is a hospital in Atlanta, that can evaluate your child, it is a for children with Austim but they can help others as well. http://www.marcus.org/
4. Find your county mental health department, make an appointment for your child(ren) have them to evaluate your child if you cannot get them anywhere else.
5. Need help paying for treatment that is not covered by insurance or once insurance has been exhausted here is a site that I ran across, I cannot comment on how good they are for I have not had to use them yet. http://www.clarkbhf.com/
6. This site helped me understand “RAD” a little better and I printed some the sheets and gave to the daycare that was keeping my children afterschool to try to help them as well. http://www.attachmentdisordermaryland.com/
7. This is a movie coming our soon about “RAD” http://www.theboardermovie.com/
Signs and Symptoms
(this list is taken from the Attachment Trauma Network web site) (http://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/WhatIsAttach.htm)
What is Attachment Disorder?
Symptoms of Attachment Disorder:
• Poor peer relationships
• Poor eye contact
• Lack of Cause and Effect Thinking
• Absence of guilt, no remorse
• Chronic, nonsensical lying
• Self-injurious behavior
• Vandalism and destructiveness
• Cruelty to animals and/or children
• Stealing /hoarding food
• Indiscriminate affection towards strangers
• Refusal to answer simple questions
• Provoking of anger in others on an almost continual basis
• Theft
• Fire setting
• Theatrical displays of emotion
• Denial of accountability, always blaming others
• Learning disorders
• Toileting issues
• Lack of ability to give and receive affection
• Preoccupation with blood, fire, or gore
• Unusual speech patterns or problems–mumbles
Thank you for stopping by and reading this I will continue to add to this so please stop by often and leave comments or even ask me questions if I cannot answer them I will do my best to help you find the answers through research on the web.

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